In recent years, there has been an ever increasing focus on psychological and emotional health, and this can be viewed as a fantastic thing. For so long, this was something that was brushed under the carpet.
Nowadays, this is something that is spoken about in the media and people talk openly about what’s happening for them on social media. So, as there is less pressure on people to hide how they feel and to look as if they have it all together, it’s a lot easier for someone to open up and to share what is happening for them.
Butsimply expressing what’s going on to them to a friend or a relative, for instance, could be more than sufficient.
And, what this comes down to is that human beings aren’t independent; they’re interdependent. This is why it is so important for someone to open up and to share their load, so to speak, with other individuals.
A Cultural Flaw
This is something that can get perfectly clear when someone isn’t in a good way and has to open up to another individual.
Nevertheless, if somebody has been conditioned to think that they are independent and that they should do everything by themselves, they can end up feeling weak for needing assistance. Luckily, this conditioning won’t happen to be powerful enough to stop them from reaching out.
Someone like this could have ended up in a bad way recently, or they might have been this way for a very long time. When it comes to the former, they might have soon realised that something wasn’t right and hunted hep soon after.
On the other hand, when it comes to the latter, they could have gradually become used to what was happening for them.
A Big Element
What this illiterates is how powerful shame is, and how it can cause someone to become their own prisoner. With too much shame, someone’s primary aim will be to protect their own picture and to make sure that they aren’t ostracised.
It then won’t matter if they have mental and psychological problem because their need to protect themselves will take precedence.
Its Black and White
However, regardless of whether someone has been able to reach out after suffering for years or only suffered for a little while, it is going to be evident that they wanted to change their life. Someone could have fought a long battle with themselves or it might have been a really short encounter.
Shame is then something that has the potential to hold someone back, yet it’s not necessarily something that will cause someone to completely surrender to their suffering and to take it. At exactly the same time, just because someone is consciously resisting what is going on for them; it does not mean that another portion of them does not feel comfortable with it.
Hidden or Out In The open
What this means is that a small part of them will want to change their life but a much bigger part of them will have come to feel comfortable with anguish. This may sound like a ludicrous idea, especially if a person is not knowledgeable about the nature of the unconscious mind.
Due to how long they’ve been this way for, this pain may be a large part of their identity.
Someone can then be in lots of pain and even reach out to others, creating the impression that they want to change their life, but another part of them will not want their life to change. This comes down to is that the unconscious mind associates what is familiar with what’s safe, meaning that it does not care about whether something is healthy or feels good.
For instance, someone could be used to feeling down, helpless, hopeless, helpless or worthless, and feeling this way could be what feels comfortable at a deeper level. Additionally, through feeling this way for so long, it may play a large part in how they see themselves.
With this understanding, someone will have the ability to check into what is taking place at a deeper level, to work through it, and to adopt their inherent power and worth.
It will then be as if they want to change but something (or someone) is holding them back. How they feel like an adult may match up with how they felt throughout their childhood years, which may mean that they don’t know what it is like to experience life differently.